The Art of Courtship and Romance

1. a: to seek to gain or achieve
2 a: to seek the affections of; especially: to seek to win a pledge of marriage from
1: to engage in social activities leading to engagement and marriage

I've always considered myself to be a true romantic at heart. I would daydream about my pretend beau and hope he was like minded. I also consider myself a simple girl that still wants the finer things in life, but I know how to make happiness where I can. In the times we live in everyone is so flashy glossy, either you have to be a baller or the next video girl. Well I am not looking to be the next video girl and I don't mind an average Joe. I can say I did my share of dating and I could tell a story or two. I dated one guy who only ate bar food and did not talk much, yet he wanted to be around me all the time ugh. I was so bored and sick of wings and fries, I wanted to scream. I also went out this one guy who turned every phrase into a love song; I would think how corny are we???? I was hoping he would think of something original to say to me so we could actually have a conversation....never happened lol. There was a period of two years where I dated a military man and he was wonderful. He would come and pick me up from work sometimes with a flower or two in hand. He was funny as all get out and never had a problem showing how proud he was to be with me. He came out to everything I did in support of my craft and was usually the loudest person in the audience. I loved him very much and if it were not for politics and being deployed we would probably still be together. I think that just because two people don't end up together does not mean something was not right, sometimes that is not the path God has for either of you.But if you can't commit to him you probably can't commit to a relationship.Your path with your partner will only end up in some sort of destruction. When you put God aside in your relationship you put the progress for it to grow in a healthy way aside. So are you on a path to him? I remember we would get lunch, nothing fancy and just sit out and talk till the sun went down. He would hug me a lot and I never refused them, I felt very comfortable in showing my affection for him.

He knew how to court a woman, and was happy to be on the receiving end. I don't think a lot of men use there imagination these days when it comes to dating. What happened to indoor picnics in the living room with candlelight? Conversation that focused on each other and not work. If you don't know what to come up with for your lady, get to know her friends. They will always help when it comes to making there friend happy. Pay attention, make mental notes and asking questions always helps in the long run. I really believe it's about meeting your partner where they are. It's not fair when one person is satisfied and the other is left undone. Sometimes you have to remember that though it may not be your style and not something you do, the look on your partners face should make it all worth it. Now if you don't care about making your partner happy you need to be alone. If you’re out of touch or disconnected find a way to fix it if you care,if you’re lazy then a relationship is not something you should be trying to pursue. I don't know any relationship that made it on not trying; it takes lots of love and work. The art of courtship does not have to take a lot of money or any money if your intentions are true. If you use your imagination and heart things should work out fine.... I think lol. Prayer is something I also always relied on in my relationships. I pray for guidance, understanding, and a continued loving spirit not just for myself but also for my partner. I think about this all the time but Valentine's Day kind of really gave me some time for reflection. Valentine's Day is a commercial holiday which is fine for those who feel the need to go out to dinner or buy jewelry and all that jazz. I personally am a simple girl, I would feel totally happy with being showered with words of affection, and a home cooked meal and plenty of kisses and hugs. Hey if you want to buy a balloon and a flower or two that's fine as well but it's not about the show all the time for me, sometimes you just want to connect. I hope I made sense with this blog and I hope you all get the love you deserve.