Friday, March 09, 2012
By: Healthy Black Women and Girls
With all honor and respect to the single mothers who raised many of us, we want to ask how do we break the cycle and begin to build stronger, more stable families and homes so that our children can thrive and our communities can heal? Self love. Let’s make thoughtful, mindful, deliberate decisions about the men who we give our hearts and bodies to. If a man has not demonstrated his loyalty, love and respect for you then that should tell you all you need to know about his future potential as a husband or a father. “I do not trust people who don't love themselves and yet tell me, 'I love you.' There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt.” [Quote: Maya Angelou.]
Tuesday, March 06, 2012
Another Year!!!
My birthday was AMAZING!!!! My sweet, sweet Larry walked in and I gave the ugliest cry. He really caught me by surprise by showing up.
Thursday, February 16, 2012
Love Day Continued....Yeah Baby!!!
So I am still getting stuff.....ooooohhhhh I am such a mush ball. Tears, good tears, happy tears.
Wednesday, February 15, 2012
Thursday, February 09, 2012
Sunday, February 05, 2012
Consecration
In consecration, drawing closer to God...can't help but to nourish the budding thing in my mind...spreading to my heart...sigh, writing a poem. Counting down the days...I can hardly breath. Let me refocus..but the heart wants what it wants...can't stop that...for reals...refocusing...he'll still be there once it's over.
Thursday, February 02, 2012
The Burning Questions
Are you single?,Is that an engagement ring?,Is he your husband?
Sorry folks, but I can't let you into that part of my life now. I will say this, LOVE looks good on me. Protecting what I consider what an amazing gift.....right up there next to being a mother. I am happy, I feel beautiful, I know for a fact I am found interesting, quirky, cute, sexy, funny and loveable.
Love starts with friendship
Love starts with friendship
So I put put together a video blog for some of my viewers who have asked me to elaborate on my latest question..."Do you really know who you are in a relationship?" For whatever reason they won't post...UGH! I understood that it would take me having to just lay it on the line so here goes. There is more in the video on some personal things of where I was, then and now. I am delivered from hurt, shame, and the feeling of "not being enough. We place so much faith in man, that when he fails us we feel devastated.
I had NO CLUE about how to be in a relationship. I was in my FIRST "REAL" ADULT RELATIONSHIP in 2005. I had a couple of boyfriends, dated a few, but that was what I considered my first. I pretended to have it all together and acted like I had my answers in order. I embellished experience to hide the fact that I was not "schooled, versed, or hip" to the ways of men. I was never given the rules and every question I asked was answered from a place of negativity, and that it was acceptable to leave rather than "work it out". I was living a lie, I am forgiving of my teacher, I understand NOW why she did what she did. As a parent we should not project our fears and insecurities upon our children, it robs them. The best part of us having this discussion is that we move to look a little deeper at "Do you really know who you are in a relationship?"
I am happy to have been reintroduced to LOVE and it makes me nervous and excited at the same time. Charge it to my head and not my heart, I am doing my best to answer your emails and cover some of the issues in my videos.
Later Lovies!
I had NO CLUE about how to be in a relationship. I was in my FIRST "REAL" ADULT RELATIONSHIP in 2005. I had a couple of boyfriends, dated a few, but that was what I considered my first. I pretended to have it all together and acted like I had my answers in order. I embellished experience to hide the fact that I was not "schooled, versed, or hip" to the ways of men. I was never given the rules and every question I asked was answered from a place of negativity, and that it was acceptable to leave rather than "work it out". I was living a lie, I am forgiving of my teacher, I understand NOW why she did what she did. As a parent we should not project our fears and insecurities upon our children, it robs them. The best part of us having this discussion is that we move to look a little deeper at "Do you really know who you are in a relationship?"
I am happy to have been reintroduced to LOVE and it makes me nervous and excited at the same time. Charge it to my head and not my heart, I am doing my best to answer your emails and cover some of the issues in my videos.
Monday, January 30, 2012
Saturday, November 05, 2011
Step Your Life Game Up
So there was a moment of clarity when when she said it... You get what you expect and you deserve what you allow. I was like wow, that is deep, of course it was borrowed from an old soul but the sentiment was just the same.
I had been going over somethings with myself for a couple of days and realized that you have to continue to press for what you want in life. We all know...well most of us know nothing comes easy and some things just land in our laps.
Realize that whatever shade of stupid does not look good on the average person and you should never allow anyone to influence you with there own dysfunctional rhetoric. A lot of times people who are so set in their own beliefs due to fear of transition, progress or just personal happiness will also try to convince you that the sky is green.
If it's that job you have been wanting, go after it. If it's respect give it and you will get it. Step your life game up and you will see your blessings flow. Giving of yourself is one of the most selfless things you can do in any area.
If it's love you desire and you want to be courted a certain way...who says you can't have it the way you want it,need it, pray for it? I find clarity about a lot of things if I put it out there in the universe, usually I'll get the answer that puts my mind at ease.
It's a personal goal of mine to not be so scary and say exactly what is on my heart or messing with my mind. I am starting to realize folks will still love you, they will still like you and they will still hate you so what difference does it make. So to all my fellow scary folks out there I pray that you step your life game up, get the love you deserve and give of yourself.
I had been going over somethings with myself for a couple of days and realized that you have to continue to press for what you want in life. We all know...well most of us know nothing comes easy and some things just land in our laps.
Realize that whatever shade of stupid does not look good on the average person and you should never allow anyone to influence you with there own dysfunctional rhetoric. A lot of times people who are so set in their own beliefs due to fear of transition, progress or just personal happiness will also try to convince you that the sky is green.
If it's that job you have been wanting, go after it. If it's respect give it and you will get it. Step your life game up and you will see your blessings flow. Giving of yourself is one of the most selfless things you can do in any area.
If it's love you desire and you want to be courted a certain way...who says you can't have it the way you want it,need it, pray for it? I find clarity about a lot of things if I put it out there in the universe, usually I'll get the answer that puts my mind at ease.
It's a personal goal of mine to not be so scary and say exactly what is on my heart or messing with my mind. I am starting to realize folks will still love you, they will still like you and they will still hate you so what difference does it make. So to all my fellow scary folks out there I pray that you step your life game up, get the love you deserve and give of yourself.
Saturday, October 29, 2011
Heavy on my Mind
Going to pray, school on my mind...don't want to drop out. So much on my mind...I wish I could just escape for the weekend. Somewhere where the leaves are falling and I can relax..oh the lil one can come too lol.
Sunday, September 11, 2011
Scribes from 2005
So I flew down to Charlotte, NC and I must say It was beautiful. My friend bragged since the moment we meet how nice it was. I never thought about living anywhere else but DC but I don't know folk Charlotte is in the running. My God-brother didn't`t make it down and so Kenyatta and I hung out on our own. I can say it`s really nice to hang out with progressive Black men, my God-brother included. Their funny,know how to have a good time, respectful,and really have there eyes on the prize.
I met Kenyatta almost a year ago and I can say that after that weekend with him he will definitely be a brother I can call a friend, It`s so good to know there are still men out there that are not trying to get into you panties.
I will admit I worried about that initially before I got down there and I was pleasantly surprised when he didn't`t make a move. I guess in the world of guys and dolls this doll has had little faith in guys. I don`t have many male friends and I am so glad to have this one in my life. Back in DC/VA another storm is brewing, my ex-beau/beau
I met Kenyatta almost a year ago and I can say that after that weekend with him he will definitely be a brother I can call a friend, It`s so good to know there are still men out there that are not trying to get into you panties.
I will admit I worried about that initially before I got down there and I was pleasantly surprised when he didn't`t make a move. I guess in the world of guys and dolls this doll has had little faith in guys. I don`t have many male friends and I am so glad to have this one in my life. Back in DC/VA another storm is brewing, my ex-beau/beau
Tuesday, September 06, 2011
Loving You
I'm a romantic at heart...just a love scribe that came to me. No one in particular, just felt good.
I remember when you came into my life, I was scared for you.
I wasn’t ready for you, I wasn’t ready to love you, and my heart wasn’t open to receive you.
I looked at you as an obstacle I had no idea how to approach you/ this.
As I watch our relationship grow, I stand in awe and amazement.
You are the thread that holds my temperamental life together. I can’t phantom life with out you. Through your eyes you have given so much by how you view the world, I remember I was once like that. I can’t thank you enough for the gifts you give.
I remember when you came into my life, I was scared for you.
I wasn’t ready for you, I wasn’t ready to love you, and my heart wasn’t open to receive you.
I looked at you as an obstacle I had no idea how to approach you/ this.
As I watch our relationship grow, I stand in awe and amazement.
You are the thread that holds my temperamental life together. I can’t phantom life with out you. Through your eyes you have given so much by how you view the world, I remember I was once like that. I can’t thank you enough for the gifts you give.
Beautiful you
Beautiful you chocolate and new.
Surprising me each and everyday.
Honest and true with nothing to lose.
You show me that dreams do come true.
You came without asking and give without thinking.
So full of beauty I never even knew.
Beautiful you chocolate and new.
Surprising me each and everyday.
I was thinking of my nephew when I wrote this
He will be five on September 26, 2000
I never knew I could love someone so much.
The feelings I have are so much at times I feel like I am going
to burst. My heart is so full of love for him.
He is a master and commander and he has no clue.
It’s so amazing to me how he forced me to want to do better for myself.
I was faced with the realization that I have to do better so he can live.
He could live with love and hope and dignaty.
He will have a chance in this world and I will do whatever,however so his life here
on earth has a fighting chance,and it will not be in vain.
Surprising me each and everyday.
Honest and true with nothing to lose.
You show me that dreams do come true.
You came without asking and give without thinking.
So full of beauty I never even knew.
Beautiful you chocolate and new.
Surprising me each and everyday.
I was thinking of my nephew when I wrote this
He will be five on September 26, 2000
I never knew I could love someone so much.
The feelings I have are so much at times I feel like I am going
to burst. My heart is so full of love for him.
He is a master and commander and he has no clue.
It’s so amazing to me how he forced me to want to do better for myself.
I was faced with the realization that I have to do better so he can live.
He could live with love and hope and dignaty.
He will have a chance in this world and I will do whatever,however so his life here
on earth has a fighting chance,and it will not be in vain.
Sunday, May 08, 2011
Smile
So life has been interesting in 2011. School was brutal and I still have one more final to take, piano cramped fingers my lawd...God help me. It's been quiet on my blog because of the stalker(s) that I have. I promise that as soon as I clear it all up I'll go back to my public forum. Until then be well and live life until the wheels fall off.
Thursday, March 03, 2011
Tuesday, March 01, 2011
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