But All of This!

 On Russell Wilson, and falling in love with a mother:

Masculinity as it has been taught to men, is becoming obsolete, and they know it. Somewhere between the 80s and now, men got the idea that it was a statement of virility and conquest to get as many women pregnant as they could, and lord over those women’s lives (and oftentimes budding adulthood) with the children they create and often abandon

Drop off the face of the earth, then come back at random times in the woman and children’s lives. Remind her that she is “damaged goods” every chance they get, and the best thing to happen to her is him, the baby daddy, deciding he wants to play house for a week and disappear into the night again. Lather rinse repeat

Men like Russell Wilson upset the order of that type of psychological abuse that keeps men feeling some semblance of power that they don’t have elsewhere, economically or socially. 

Some men need the story of a “crazy” baby mama that they don’t want anymore being obsessed with them, because they don’t have anything else. There’s no stories to get the barber shop roaring in laughter when your baby mother has moved on. There’s no way to make the next woman conquest feel extra special when the woman you had a child with ain’t thinking about you like that.

A “simp” is really nothing more than a heterosexual man with a relatively healthy respect for women, and doesn’t allow his peers to influence his behaviors with women. A “simp” sees a single mom handling her business, wearing many hats, independent and driven to make a good life for her family, and may say “That woman is a force, and I would be blessed if she was a part of my life...”

His peers would tell him he deserves better, make grand exaggerated statements about her sexuality “bruh she’s ran through...” just because of evidence of her having sex in creating a life. Her ambition, success, drive etc doesn’t matter. In their minds, she’s little more than a rogue extension of some man. In Ciara they see women they’ve abandoned with children and fear the day she will find someone who frees her from their terror

Men’s reaction to Russell Wilson saying he would be afraid to lose Ciara is them realizing how obsolete they are becoming, if baby mothers can get on with their lives, they ultimately have no purpose, and it frightens them

Recognize the Signs

A narcissistic person will gaslight you, tell you you’re crazy and then paint you as the one with the issues to everyone else. Run 🏃🏾 💨 fast in the other direction, don’t look back. Block all contact by all means if possible. Recognize the signs and move accordingly. 

Poor Tink Tink

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Asleep at the wheel

💡 Moments

I’m a Cow!! 🤣🐄

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Love Child

Planning makes all the difference!!! There are many things a couple should consider when planning to have a child. Other siblings, finances, health, age, home, so on and so on. Let’s discuss what your ideal fertility/pregnancy goals look like. BTW were hoping for a girl! 🎀🤱🏽👶🏽💕

Women who tear down other women

When my ex’s ex started stalking me I couldn’t understand why, then it all made sense.  I realized he had been lying to her and lying on me. I didn’t understand her insecurities and venomous ways until then. I’ve never been a woman who thought it was ok to go after someone just off of someone’s word. I need facts, proof and receipts. I’ll champion a cause but not based on lies and someone’s ego needing to be stroked. That was hard for me to have a woman tear me down but I’m thankful to both her, and my ex. It motivated me to finish my degrees, fall in love with myself, take care of myself better, fall in healthy love, and empower others against people who are struggling with self respect/esteem. These people project their mess and can have you all screwed up mentally and emotionally. Cheers to the haters on your healing! Not bad for a lil “hood rat” from Chocolate City huh? 😘

Raising Kings

 You teach your boys how to treat a woman by the way that you treat their mother. Period. If you ever thought it was acceptable to be disrespectful, allow others to be disrespectful to the mother of your child , or allow yourself to be lost in complacency,  vilify her with no justification, you are not  equipped to raise young kings.

Men who behave in this manner are often  insecure and devoid of  emotional connection.  Behavior such as this is usually a tactic to deflect from his shortcomings.

Grammy Holiday Party

What a fab night. I can't wait to get back in the studio, I miss the music. Enjoyed the 2016 Grammy Holiday Party with my good friend of 26 years.

Family Vacation!

Nothing like a much needed family vacation where the beach is secluded and not commercial. I can't wait to go back. My guys and I walked onto the beach at midnight. Talk about an amazing sight with no other people around, AMAZING!! We had so much fun!

Let's Face It!!

Hosted my first beauty talk this past weekend. I was nervous and excited all at the same time. The ladies asked tons of questions and we laughed the whole afternoon. I can't wait to host another one!

Move on!!

 Your insecurity about your life in general is not my issue to attend to,  however the way in which you project your insecurities on me is.  You've had many years to rectify your standing with me. I'm over it,  been over it.  I need you to understand how over it I've been,  now you should be too.   Please move on.  If you can't move on then you need to try to fix it,  can't promise you that you'll ever be able to fix it with me ,but you definitely need to fix it with yourself.

Toodles

When your Ex continues to try to connect with you on things you don't care about. #BoyBye
I think his lady should be concerned as to why he's still reaching. It's a shame that he really believes I spend any time thinking of him, perhaps that's why he thinks I care. Sigh!

When I'm done, I'm done. It doesn't take me long to figure someone out. Let someone else expound that energy or ride a roller coaster of dysfunction. I'm not saying people can't change, but  if I don't see  any evidence of it, why waste time. You'll always be the devil in my book.

What a Beautiful Sexy Summer!!