On Russell Wilson, and falling in love with a mother:
Masculinity as it has been taught to men, is becoming obsolete, and they know it. Somewhere between the 80s and now, men got the idea that it was a statement of virility and conquest to get as many women pregnant as they could, and lord over those women’s lives (and oftentimes budding adulthood) with the children they create and often abandon
Drop off the face of the earth, then come back at random times in the woman and children’s lives. Remind her that she is “damaged goods” every chance they get, and the best thing to happen to her is him, the baby daddy, deciding he wants to play house for a week and disappear into the night again. Lather rinse repeat
Men like Russell Wilson upset the order of that type of psychological abuse that keeps men feeling some semblance of power that they don’t have elsewhere, economically or socially.
Some men need the story of a “crazy” baby mama that they don’t want anymore being obsessed with them, because they don’t have anything else. There’s no stories to get the barber shop roaring in laughter when your baby mother has moved on. There’s no way to make the next woman conquest feel extra special when the woman you had a child with ain’t thinking about you like that.
A “simp” is really nothing more than a heterosexual man with a relatively healthy respect for women, and doesn’t allow his peers to influence his behaviors with women. A “simp” sees a single mom handling her business, wearing many hats, independent and driven to make a good life for her family, and may say “That woman is a force, and I would be blessed if she was a part of my life...”
His peers would tell him he deserves better, make grand exaggerated statements about her sexuality “bruh she’s ran through...” just because of evidence of her having sex in creating a life. Her ambition, success, drive etc doesn’t matter. In their minds, she’s little more than a rogue extension of some man. In Ciara they see women they’ve abandoned with children and fear the day she will find someone who frees her from their terror
Men’s reaction to Russell Wilson saying he would be afraid to lose Ciara is them realizing how obsolete they are becoming, if baby mothers can get on with their lives, they ultimately have no purpose, and it frightens them
